Sorry State of Affairs

Macho.gifLast night couple of us friends decided to grab a bite off Munchies. We were a group of five including two men and three women. Owing to women’s seemingly inexplicable attachment with “chatpattay masalay dar entries” at Munchies, we men had to give in. We were sitting out in the open area that has been designated by the CDA for people to sit and enjoy their food. A few yards away from our tables there were two girls seemingly enjoying a bite. Suddenly we noticed a group of four guys sitting right in the line of sight of the girls’ table. They came out of no where literally.

These guys were so blatantly staring at these two females, that after a while even we got agitated. Few moments passed and the girls’ resolve gave in as well. One of them gained some courage and spoke to the guys, “Couldn’t you please change your seats?” One of the machos stood up, sat on the table, feet on the bench, and with a fiery look in his eyes and a humiliating tone replied “We aren’t going anywhere, Do what you want to do”. At this point my friend and I lost the last barrage on our temper control and we were about to stand up when our female partners advised us against it, so we had to sit back again, clinching our fists. Hearing this, the girls simply got off and left the place. At this point in time, I felt so helpless, and had just three questions in mind that we put forward to my other friends there and also put it to you

Does any one in this society, especially stags, have the right to harass and humiliate women in public? How should be such people treated?

Why don’t, or can’t, those who are victimized report the case to the police immediately?

For people like us, you and everyone around, isn’t it our moral obligation to nip such evils in the bud the moment we see it? Why can’t we create a society in which people not only fear law enforcement agencies, or religion, but they respect social values and pressures for etiquettes as well?

I really feel sorry for the women who have to go out on their own and have to face a billion cases like this in our cities daily.

17 Comments so far

  1. Farhan (unregistered) on January 14th, 2007 @ 3:45 pm

    Especially when educated people starts blaming that girls want the boys to do this that’s why they dress up and all..

    Most of my pretty educated friends are of this opinion.


  2. WK (unregistered) on January 14th, 2007 @ 4:48 pm

    I feel very sorry for those girls who faced these kind of boys, the scenario was disturbing.

    My thoughts: at that time one should ignore as much as they can, if the openant is not giving up than one should be seated and call asap to 15 security.

    Option two: Stand up and talk with some nearest help such as you were sitting over there.

    Or just face the reality and suck it up, these kind of boys are given by our new society SO CALLED FREEDOM, well this is what I called freedom of MEDIA,.

    We youngsters where ever go give respect to all of our nation weather she is a mother,sister, aunty no matter who ever is she.

    We should controle our fashion style a little bit, Jeans is everywhere on female eeeeemmmmm lets stop here. See Apana Punjabi Channel and you will be amazed.

    Personally I think that boys need to controle themselves.


  3. JayJay (unregistered) on January 14th, 2007 @ 4:56 pm

    It is not easy to be a woman, especially at a public spot, even in Islamabad, supposedly a civilized city. We need to have a concerted campaign (awareness + enforcement) against the scourge of “eve-teasing” or blatant harassment of women. Let us build up some pressure through press. You can’t simply expect any progress by denying 50 percent of population a real role in the society by forcing them into homes.

    Although not involved in the above incident, I still feel ashamed for being a man. I am not blaming anyone but Backpackers’ friends should have risen up to side with the girls for the sake of unity of cause. These yahoos appear machos but are cowards deep inside. They always go in groups. I am sure if others have gone to the assistance of the two victims, the yahoos would have vanished. Munchies had some responsibility as well if they have to run the business. They should have intervened.

  4. JayJay (unregistered) on January 14th, 2007 @ 5:02 pm

    Let us not blame victims. Yahoos don’t spare girls in burqa.

  5. WK (unregistered) on January 14th, 2007 @ 5:23 pm

    I agreed with JayJay,
    As per Munchies Adminstration/Owner, I know them personally, I promise I will talk with them.

    Jayjay is right we shold start some kind of campaign e.g Posters/Banner arround the market etc…

    Respect the women !


  6. luke (unregistered) on January 14th, 2007 @ 8:41 pm

    Islamabad, civilized? this is the biggest joke of the century.The city is infested with ganday ganday boyz( heard that on cable).

  7. finch (unregistered) on January 14th, 2007 @ 9:20 pm

    Such behaviours show the sickness of the societies where gender discrimination is practiced whether in the name of religion, morals or ethics(don’t brand me kafir for this).I have found our rural areas and people some of the most frank folks with women seen working alongside men everywhere.It is here in your so called educated and civilised towns that you’ll find such shameless characters and examples.Education can not be blamed, problem is somewhere else.Behave people, this is all i can say.

  8. 1967 (unregistered) on January 15th, 2007 @ 10:16 am

    @luke: In my humble opinion, from what I have seen, most of these ganday ganday boys are the “pindi walas”

  9. Purple_Haze (unregistered) on January 15th, 2007 @ 11:25 am

    As Mr. blogger wrote: “isn’t it our moral obligation to nip such evils in the bud the moment we see it?”

    YES! it very much is our “moral obligation” and therefore interestingly I would blame the girls who went with the blogger (backpacker) (not the victim girls) – because they stopped Mr. backapacker & his friend to take action.

    The correct way is that “everyone” should have taken then action including all four of you & the two victim girls, you also should have called the police.

    Guys this is our city… to keep it clean from such bunch of Yahoos is our DUTY… but no need to get down on their level and get physical or practice verbal abuse… Be professional & swift in your actions…. join together when you see such a situation… In fact these are “opportunities” to fix the society – dont let them pass & then brag later oh I should have done this or that… take strong, educated and controlled action… and remember NEVER lose your temper… because you are presenting the real face of Pakistan and therefore you have a huge responsibility… all the best…

  10. 1967 (unregistered) on January 15th, 2007 @ 12:12 pm

    I agree with you purple_haze that it’s the duty of every individual to put their two cents worth in order to create a safe enviroment for everyone. But most of the times, women are hesitant to get in a row, especially when it comes to police, because the sorry state of affairs with the police department. If you have been to the place, there is a police post right next to the seating area. But no one, especially the women on their own want to get their attention.

  11. WK (unregistered) on January 15th, 2007 @ 12:32 pm


    Instead of blaming on anyone, see into your self that what you can do about it to get rid of it.

    Well RWP Boys are not “ganday” but you can call bad boys or naughty : /…

    and ofcourse these bad boys one day will get in Army or Airforce.., lets get little realistic..teens are every where like this what you gonna do about it eeemmm may be they need some dolls to play oh Stop sorry my bad (JK),

    We all need freinds to share & Share, BE POSITIVE.


  12. 1967 (unregistered) on January 15th, 2007 @ 12:44 pm

    O yea, one day they will get into army and then do state sponsered harassment.

    The first rule of freedom is : Respect other’s freedom.

  13. WK (unregistered) on January 15th, 2007 @ 12:52 pm




    Should I offer you on a cup of Coffee hot chocolate eeeemmmmm so tasty so hot…..

    come on man you need it ha ha ha


  14. Ali Choudhury (unregistered) on January 15th, 2007 @ 3:51 pm

    It’s the natural consequence of a society where sexual frustration is the rule. Doesn’t happen much in villages because everybody either knows each other or is related to them.

  15. WK (unregistered) on January 15th, 2007 @ 3:52 pm

    Or may be what they want they get easily (NO OFFECENCE),


  16. JayJay (unregistered) on January 16th, 2007 @ 3:53 am

    There appears to be a strong support in favour of creating awareness against female harassment, strengthening enforcement mechanism and supporting victims. While it is often not easy to confront the bullies face to face, we can easily write a letter or two to newspapers to draw the attention of authorities in ICT Administration, who are fairly responsive on such issues.

    If you want to write a letter to the editor to set the ball rolling, following email addresses will be handy: Daily Times Dawn

    Unfortunately I don’t have email address for The News.

    A letter should not take more than ten minutes and feel free to use a pseudonym if you are not comfortable in getting your name published.

  17. Talha (unregistered) on January 17th, 2007 @ 5:05 pm

    For “The News”, it is

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